If I Bend, I Might Break!

by admin on June 13, 2011


joanneGuest Blogger: Joanne Jennings

Today I thought about how much compromise is not a part of my life.  Now depending on how you define compromise, some of us are either cringing at the word, some of us are learning to embrace compromise from a marital or parental perspective, and others could perhaps be undecided as to how they feel about compromise. I know that I have engaged in compromising situations and it was based on where I was emotionally and who I was involved with at the time.  I am not the type that will have a conversation with a girl friend and tell her how much I love finding a middle ground with my relationships with my male companion, my boss, the authority personality in my life, or my child of which all are male.  But for some reason, today I find myself in the middle, where as I want to be in charge of my relationships with men and women.

There are times when I feel like I want to be the captain in my various relationships.  Specifically, at this point I feel like I have the monopoly on how to better maintain the relationship with my male companion. There are times when we are navigating through rough seas in our relationship and I feel like I am the only one who can read a compass or radio for help.  Ok the truth is, when it comes to taking action to do something differently in the relationship I move first.  And when he does not adhere to my guidance, I say his male pride has gotten in the way and you know what that leads to, a rocking ship traveling on rough seas.  When I move this way of course I turn a deaf ear to any suggestions that he may have that could bring resolve to the situation.

We all have our ways of settling differences in which each person involved acknowledges, often reluctantly, as being true, just, or
proper.  Overall, compromise is not bad unless you find yourself in positions you did not bargain for.  What happens when you are finding yourself in the midst of a bad compromise? If you find that you are compromising in areas of holiness, lowering your self-esteem/worth, your morals, or filling a void with everything that is worsening your situation you have to check your heart.  Look at your heart to see why you lower your standards instead of making people or situations rise up to yours.  You do have standards don’t you?  The bible tells us: “Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.”  Romans 12:2 (The Message)

If you have ever been in the position where you were rejected, betrayed, are prideful or struggle with image, you will have reservations with give and take.  You feel someone is out to hurt or destroy you based on your past experiences.  Do you want to live this way for the rest of your life? Take heed to Gods Word, and trust in him to help you in your relationships (mate, companion, business partner, or friend) He will get the glory and you will get the healthy relationships.

I’m Just Sayin’

Joanne Jennings

CEO and Founder of Trade Winds Support Ministry, a christian support and resource ministry to aid in the development and growth of teenaged and single moms. Check them out at: www.tradewindssupportministry.org

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